What does self acceptance have to do with weight loss, you might ask. Actually, it has a great deal of influence on health and weight.

You have heard the saying: “You are what you eat.” Also, “You are what you think”. We are what we put in our bodies be it food or thought. Let’s look at what our thoughts do to us.

Thoughts can make you happy, sad, mad, fat, thin, healthy or sick. Our thoughts are very powerful. As you think you will act.

 People come in a variety of shapes and sizes do to genetics, heritage, environment and personal choices. We can’t change our genetics or heritage. We do have influence on our environment and our choices, and that includes our thoughts.

 Madison Avenue advertising has sold us a model of what a beautiful woman should look like. What comes to mind is a gal in her teens or twenties, tall and thin and is 5′ 10″, and weighs 110 pounds. She can wear all the chic clothes. She attracts all the guys. She seems to “have it all”. Did you ever stop to think that 99% of us could never live up to that model? Nor should we. Personally, I think that we should ditch the Madison Avenue model.

 Many women go through life trying to get close to what the tabloids tell us is beautiful, forget healthy. When they can’t meet that goal or expectation it can affect self esteem.
Our bodies are physically different when we feel good about ourselves verses not feeling good about self.  The chemistry of the body changes and the physiological processes are altered. Poor self image/esteem stimulates the stress response. This increases cortisol levels which can result in fat being deposited and held in the abdominal area. In addition, under stress many people eat more food and unhealthy food.

 Do you remember the childhood adage: “sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me”? Not true. Sticks and stones may break your bones, but name calling will cut you off at your knees. Name calling is very damaging.

 For us baby boomers, the name calling is internal. “I’m fat and I can’t help it.” “I don’t need to eat; I can apply it directly (to the thighs).” The body hears every word and every thought. We show our consistent thought process in our faces, our bodies, our health and our lives.

How do you change this? First you change your thought habits, then you do some things differently and then you are a new you.

 The first choice is self acceptance. Where you are right now is perfect based on your genetics, history and choices that you’ve made up to this point. If you can’t love yourself at this point try gratitude. Be thankful for all that you are and all that you have. From the place of gratitude, allow love to fill your heart for yourself, your life and your journey.

 I invite you to be truly OK with you, your current size and health. Now, dress well. Pick clothes that make you look good, right now. Put on makeup and jewelry. Be your very best. Every day, tell yourself how beautiful you are, and that is the truth. You are a perfect emanation of God. The Divine Spark is in you, let it shine. Be grateful for all that you are and have in your life.

 From this state of self love and acceptance, start making choices about your food and activities. From self love, research about healthy eating and healthy life styles. From self love evaluate where you are and where you want to be.

 How will you get to your healthy weight goals… one healthy choice at a time! If you are looking for help in healthy diet, stay tuned. My ebook “Healthy Eating and Weight Loss for Baby Boomer Women” is almost ready! 

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What is your burning issue,  just ask me!


Mary Pat

Mary Pat FitzGibbons RN writes on health and weight issues for Baby Boomer Women.